One of the smallest but most profound and effective thing I did when I was dealing with my narcissist was to actually pick up a small, unassuming Rock and put it in my pocket. This Rock, which I call my Totem anchored me to the present moment and the Grey Rock Theory during all of my interactions with the narcissist.

My Totem continues to act as a constant physical reminder not to star in the narcissists stage show, to remain calm and deny them your reaction to their abusive behaviour. In meditation, the breath anchors you to the moment and during narcissistic live interactions the Totem does the same, allowing you the space to practice ‘GreyRocKiN’.

My hope is that this physical Totem helps you as it has me in whatever situation you find yourself in through anchoring you to the practice of ‘GreyRocKiN’ in the moments in which you need it most.

Wishing you Peace & Light